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The Secret to Changing Your Circumstance!

15 Nov

Years ago I watched Oprah interview a girl who was suffering from anorexia (and probably the worst case I had seen). Another guest was trying to give her advice on how she overcame her bulimia by telling her she needs to nurture her mind. Easier said then done right? The anorexic girl responded with “But How?”

Oprah  had a profound ahaha light bulb moment when she realised that the “But how?” is the reason people continue to struggle.

“But how?”

How can you heal your pain, how can you really stick with your weight loss plan, how can you restore your health, how can you move past your negative circumstance. If we knew how than we wouldn’t be so deeply lost!

It’s a question I get asked a lot. Many people ask me how I healed my body from illness and depression and even how I  stay so thin and stick to eating healthy.

The secret is simple (but also so freak’n hard!)

You need to make a decision that you want something different from your life. Without this simple first step you can’t really move on from your circumstance as it all starts here!

You need to make a decision each day that you want to live.

I mean really LIVE – have energy, feel great, feel confident,  feel love. All those things that make your day worthwhile, you need to want it so bad that you can’t accept anything else into your life.

We always seem to accept 2nd best into our lives. This occurs in every area of life and we stick with the easy option or what we are accustomed to. We stay in jobs we hate, relationships that aren’t working and accept that our accept our body flaws as “genetic” and here to stay.

We have been conditioned by our environment and our upbringing to believe that this is it. Life is hard and we are all battlers.

Sure life can swing us some painful curb balls but we always have the choice on how we respond. We can choose to get up and get over it, we can choose to get help or take steps towards our desires. We have a choice to live exceptional lives just as misery is a choice.

You may be going through something really terrible right now and are screaming at me that you haven’t chosen this feeling and I get it, we don’t choose what happens to us, BUT we can choose how we react and respond to our pain and circumstances.

My sister lost her best friend to suicide earlier in the year. The details are really, really horrific. It’s one of those stories that you think only happens to other people or in movies. Without going into too much detail, she was with him just before it happened and was the one to go back and have to call the police. The last 9 months have been the worst of her life and she has gone through unbearable depression, anxiety and post traumatic stress.

BUT even though her soul is on fire with pain she makes the decision every day to get up and take care of her kids and husband and try to get through this. She makes a decision that she will try to look for the good in life even though everything is pointing her to believe that life is horrific and painful. She has bad days and she has horrific days, she hasn’t felt a glimmer of a good day in a long time but she gets up each day despite of this.

It’s not easy but the point is even in the worst circumstance you can take teeny tiny steps to get through your day and choose  to try to get out of your situation.

From the age of 14-21 I was chronically ill but I made a decision that I would be healed and that illness was no longer a part of me.

Through my 20’s I battled depression on and off to the point of wanting to end my life but I made a decision that I would fight it and live a life of joy

I made a decision that I wanted to take care of my body, feel vibrant energy and health,  turn back the clock, feel amazing every day and have a great body.

I make a decision each day that I will look for the best in people and look for the best in life and with those eyes I can see miracles each day!

I have recently  made a decision to take a huge risk and leap of faith and I am going to make my dream’s happen and not settle for a work life that does not serve me or others!

When you make a decision you also need to take action. It’s not always going to be easy but you take the steps to get to where you want to be, and you make the steps with the intention that this is for life.

Write out your goals and then write out the steps you need to take to achieve this. If you’re feeling really low then start by setting very small tasks for yourself to achieve throughout the day. Last month my sister decided to find something each day that she was grateful for take a picture of it and post it on FB. This re-focused her pain and forced her to try to find something positive.

This is not a dress rehearsal, this is it. We have one shot at this so we have to give it all we have.

Everything that you desire, whether that be better health,  to lose weight, find a job you love, a relationship, healing, or whatever it is. EVERYTHING already exists for you. The kingdom of heaven starts here. You can experience it in this life but only if you make the decision to manifest it, you need to make the decision to give it everything you have and you need to make the decision that you will not give up on your goal until you see it, feel it, touch it.

Can you do that?!

What is one thing you can change this week to make steps towards your goal?

Always believing in you

Lyn xx

How to Get Out of a Funky Mood

24 Oct

I have to confess… I have been feeling stuck in a bad funk the past few weeks. At one point I was blaming my hormones because that’s what girls do –  we have a tendency to make excuses and blame everything on our hormones!

As much as I try to be positive, have a good attitude, read inspiring and empowering books, say affirmations, have deep spiritual conversations, exercise and eat healthy, sometimes I just feel shit.

Know what I mean?

There are times when none of the above work because I am stuck in the “poor me” mentality and focusing on what I don’t have in my life and whatever negative situation is going on around me.

As much as I am hoping and praying and visualising and manifesting I can just feel so hopeless, helpless and stuck. Like I don’t know what more I could possibly do.

Do you ever feel this way?

When I get like this I usually know how to fix it and also the reason  I wound up in a funk.  The answer for me is meditation. Without it I go back into a funk!

If I could share with you one tip that will totally transform your life it is meditation. The frustrating thing is even though I know this and swear by this practice I tend to make excuses as to why I can’t. Normally the excuse is I don’t have time in the morning (I can’t get up early enough) or I want to watch X Factor. Crazy right? That’s my excuse to why I can’t do something that will transform my spirit!

Last night I told myself to cut the crap. I was going to inhale the good shit and exhale all the bad shit. I was going to be committed to meditating every day for the next 21 days.

If it’s good enough for Deepak Chopra and Oprah it is good enough for me!

Meditation can even be just 5 minutes of silence, it doesn’t have to get witchy woowoo or mystical. It is simply the quietening of the mind. For those that are more spiritually inclined it is a way to connect to your source.

Remember in Avatar when the Avatars connected their tail to the tree of souls That’s what meditation feels like, it’s connecting back to spirit, connecting back to the universe, love or God (whichever you choose to believe). The cool thing is we have this power inside of us and we don’t need a tail to connect to a tree!!

Meditating is incredibly magical as it creates shifts in your energy which ultimately affects the way the world receives you and the way you receive the world. When you quieten your mind life flows much more feely and you are able to co-create miracles. After all a miracle is just a shift in perception and meditation allows for this shift to take place.

I want to encourage you to join me in making a commitment to meditating as often as possible! I am going to resume practicing every day for at least 5-2o minutes. If every day is too much, no dramas just try it a few times a week. I have written another blog on meditating which outlines a great exercise to practice but you may also want to try the variety of visualisation meditations on itunes. I mainly meditate on anything from Wayne Dyer, Gabrielle Bernstein and Maria Elita’s The Miracle Meditation.

Deepak Chopra is also running a 21 Day Meditation Challenge for more abundance. Why not join the challenge!

I am curious, Do you meditate? Or is there anything else that keeps you grounded and calm? Leave a comment and share your thoughts!

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